The three powerful words ‘I love you’ can either make or mar a relationship. More often than not, a frequent cause of frustration in the lives of young couples is the failure to be in rapport with each other. This is basically because the young guy is blissfully ignorant of his young lady’s complex nature and is peeved because she is not a female version of himself. Let me quote a humorous yet a timely dialogue from the film My Fair Lady. Professor Henry Higgins naively asks: “Why aren’t women like us men?” To all intents and purposes, the answer to that question was provided by the celebrated Oscar Wilde in the film A Woman of No Importance, where a woman quips, “How can a woman be expected to be content with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly natural being.”
The truth is that, to quote an American jurist: “The wisest men can make fools of themselves over women, but the most foolish of women is wise about men.” Being deluded into the oblivion of a wee bit of indulgence? This is of course because as Byron says: “Man’s love is of man’s life a thing apart, most young women are themselves ignorant of their nature and depend on their intuition for a majority of their decisions.” Even the ancient Greeks were aware that a man and a woman complement each other in the same way as positive and negative do in real life. It is absolutely important to be fully appreciative of this complementary nature of man and a woman if a true love is to be successful. Alfred Adler once said, “Love is a constructive task of two persons, of opposite sex, who are determined to live together in order to relive and to enrich each other’s lives.”
To assist in your sincere love endeavors, here is a simple and a promising guide to say ‘I Love You’ to your beloved lady:
- Comprehend and tread the finer lines of difference between love and lust:
If you and your opposite sex indulge in activities that are insightful and appreciable, then you are on the verge of embarking on a beautiful relationship. This relationship is a backroom builder, cornerstone and a signpost to happiness. But let us remember with a caveat that “He who knows himself best esteems himself least.” At intervals, if you experience any momentary pangs of guilt and doubt your own loyalty, take a mental stock of the situation and resolve any conflicting issues that you may have been sweeping under the carpet. This is so in moments of nervousness, conflicts, or when we have to take a pivotal decision. Let go of control and be patient. You really need to have an honest conversation with yourself before making any kinds of instant judgments about your perspective.
- The next big thing:
After comprehending the finer lines of difference between love and lust, the next move is yours- nobody else’s. So, what do you think should be your next move? Just pick the right time and a right place to voice your thoughts. Remember- Do not mistime. Wait for the picture perfect moment. Make a point of shedding light on previous cheerful moments that you shared with your girl. The intense blend of energies suggests that things could be urgent unless you take action sooner rather than later. However, wait for the ideal moment and a chance to unwind.
- Get out of your rut:
You two might have spent some quality time with each other in parks, cinema theaters and malls. However, the time has come for focusing on voicing the three memorable words. Hence, get out of your rut and ensure that privacy is in store. More often than not, it is advised to propose a girl in private and not in front of a crowd. Be set to capture the flag and sing the song of love. At the end of the day, icing on the cake would be the smile you take to bed. So, if you are proposing a girl for the first time, do it in private. Ensure that the vibes are good.
- Adrenaline Surge:
Remember, your mind shall be going a thousand miles an hour and what you want is a clear head on the issues of love cycle. Wipe out the slate clean of old habits and patterns that no longer serve the purpose. Be serious. Do away with the routine flirting and start afresh. Just go and propose her. Do it when you mean it from your heart. There is something more than it meets eye- Oxytocin, the love hormone will assist you in your love endeavors. You should allow yourself a few flights of fancy if you are unable to resist the temptation of conveying your love to your beloved lady. Move forward with confidence.
Strong intuitive rapport with your beloved lady could evince an affirmative response. But if you don’t get an affirmative response, don’t freak. Your beloved lady may require sometime to understand the situation. Give her some time and respect her opinion. Remember, girls love those guys who are endowed with the virtues of self-righteousness and a sense of duty. Later in the day, have a blissful dinner with your sweetheart. If the response is not in the affirmative, take it easy and do not get too perturbed. Too harsh of a critique may bring tears to your eyes. Go easy and believe in destiny. If the response is in the affirmative, charge ahead with confidence.
Love’s labor may aid you in wooing a young tender heart. However, look before you leap. Don’t be swept away by the easy prospects and guard your reputation at all costs. Stay prepared for the worst if your relationship doesn’t blossom into a long-lasting one. Don’t succumb to pressure but rise up to the occasion and show who’s the boss. You can do no wrong by just being your casual, outlandish self!