Boost Self-Esteem

Your body language and tone of voice can express approval or disapproval. It is important for children to know that, even when they overstep boundaries, you believe in them and are not disappointed with who they are. Unconditional acceptance combined with healthy boundaries allows foster children to thrive and improves their self-esteem. You can also teach other life skills, such as independence and compassion. Never compare one child with another. Find Things to Praise If you are constantly criticising your children, you will knock their self-confidence and make them believe that they cannot do anything right. Instead, consciously look for things to praise. Thank them for keeping their room tidy, helping with the dishes, or playing patiently with a younger child. Take note of any improvements in their schoolwork and make sure that you compliment them. Don’t be false. Practice giving natural compliments. Praise is far more effective for shaping behaviour than scolding. Use rewards for achieving goals. For example, if your foster child gets a good mark on a test, you can give them a pre-agreed reward. Surprise gifts can also be encouraging.